We all play the ego game, that's why we are seemingly here. We do have a choice though. We can play the ego game to perpetuate it with ego or end it with spirit. I'm personally trying to play it to end it. That's why I started this forgiving the news blog. I want to face it and forgive it, not just retreat to theory.
There is a term that attracted my attention the first time I ever heard it a number of years ago called Pathological Altruism. I learned the term from Barbara Ann Oakley a Professor of Engineering at Oakland University. She has a book about the subject. Pathological Altruism is a term for when altruism and empathy comes with negative consequences.
A recent example of pathological altruism was the "children in cages" news story about the separation of illegal border crossing children at the southern U.S. border from the adults who accompanied them. The "cages" part was typical hyperbolic propaganda incited by fake news images. But the fact was that children were being separated from the adults with whom they illegally crossed the southern U.S. border. The children were being detained by the government and taken to facilities. Some of the facilities they were being held in weren't visually appealing and some of the separations were lasting a long time without contact between children and adults.
To make Trump look like the monster they want him to be, the news reported that children were being cruelly separated from their parents just for crossing the southern border illegally and being held in cages. Lots of people took the bait of that one-dimensional propagandized analysis and started demanding the separation stop. And after a few days Trump said he'd make it stop.
There was a problem though in Trump saying he'd stop it. The problem was that there was a reason for the separation policy. Not all the children were with their real parents. Some children were being trafficked. And even the children who were with their real parents were sometimes with parents who U.S. law would deem unfit parents for various reasons. Just the act of bringing children along on such a dangerous journey constitutes child abuse. (News outside the US has addressed these points.)
Fortunately, responsible enough adults are currently running things and so despite taking efforts to improve the conditions and time frames of the process of weeding through illegal border crossers, keeping children safe from abusers and traffickers is still taking priority over the stress of temporarily separating children and parents.
If the virtue signaling guilt projectors had their way, their altruism would be pathological since the result would be turning a blind eye to and thus encouraging crimes like child trafficking and child abuse. Consequently, since the children in cages story broke, I've been asking all the pathological altruists one question in various forms: What's worse, southern border crimes like child trafficking or the government temporarily detaining children with illegal border crossers?
In the ego world, the road "of" hell is paved with good intentions. That's just one of the many tricks that keep the mind tangled in the illusion. Technically, everything short of forgiveness is pathological altruism. Because trying to change the world instead of the mind is the dead end way. That's why on the level of form I just stick with the golden rule and don't try to get too fancy because I don't know what's best for everyone other than forgiving.
Instead of writing more about this subject, those interested can watch this interview with Barbara Ann Oakley on the subject. And yes I know the person doing the interview in the video is someone the thought police want people to ignore.